A Few Thoughts on Grief

Grieving comes for many reasons, not just over the loss of a person or a pet. Souls can also experience grief over the loss of a relationship, the sudden changing of a lifelong career, the loss of a home or a way of life they have always known, sometimes even the dying of a dream.
The thing about grief is that there are always certain stages the soul must go through, and at the pace that is right for them, in order to achieve healing, peace, and the ability to move on.
There is no singular right way to grieve, nor is there one timeline within which to do it.
The grieving process is personal to each person who experiences it and cannot be judged or discriminated by others.
Grief is how we accept loss, adjust to change, and hopefully grow along a new path towards a different destination.
Change is hard. We have a built-in human inclination to resist it. However, change is also inevitable in life. Grief is how we deal with changes that must occur and often bring us to different experiences, locations, and decisions that we quite likely would never have made otherwise (perhaps we needed the change to force us into doing the right thing we didn’t realize we needed to do).
Grief comes to us all. The best thing to do when it arrives is to allow ourselves to feel it, every step of the way, and see where it eventually leads us.


In the Wake of Tragedy

I was browsing through the internet news headlines this morning when a title caught my eye, “Researchers find more graves at Fla. Reform school”http://news.msn.com/us/researchers-find-more-graves-at-fla-reform-school . Even after I finished reading, my thoughts kept coming back to it.

It always horrifies me when headlines like this appear, but especially when it involves a state run institution where people are entrusted with the safekeeping of the lives of children and adolescents.

All too often, I think society gets desensitized to these stories of violence and degradation. We see so much in movies and the media that we are over-inundated with it until many people don’t see it as more than words on the page.

Over this past weekend, I sat down to watch the latest Batman movie. I was already a half hour into the movie before it struck me that this was the very same movie that so many people were killed and injured watching. A chill ran up my spine. It wasn’t that I had forgotten, but more like it had taken a backburner in my consciousness. (For those personally involved in that horrific event, I am truly sorry for all that you endured.)

With so much tragedy in the world, I cannot help but think of the approaching holiday and its true significance. When there is so much bad, I am thankful there is also an abundance of good.

As for the poor souls of those children whose lives were affected by the events related to in the above mentioned article, I pray that they and their families have found peace. Just as I pray the same for all the victims of tragedy all over the world.